Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Words cannot describe....

Blogfam,

Today I write with great sadness, an aching head, red eyes, running nose and a heavy heart. Which is weird because yesterday I had typed up and was about to post a happy post and share my joy. In an instant that changed. Yesterday June 20, 2011, I lost my dear friend who went to Secondary school with me, we were bed partners in dorm for at least 3 years. As most Loyola alumni, once you get in, a bond is built forever and we are tied into one family. She was also a very very close friend to my twin. Today, I do not write to solicit condolences, I'm writing from a place of great realisation and to share what an amazing person, Uche Okeke was  is because "To live in the hearts of those you love is not to die". More importantly, I write to ease my grief.

It might sound cliche because everyone says this but Uche was actually an intelligent person. Throughout high school, she came first in every single test and term. Which was pretty annoying come to think of it. But it a battle ensured to overthrow her, that was successful maybe only 4 times. Uche went on to University of Arizona in Tucson, Arizona and interned at Microsoft. She was working at Microsoft in Seattle when she decided to go back to Nigeria for her sister's wedding. After the traditional wedding Uche, her brother, Chuka along with a driver and two of the bride's friends were in a car accident and died instantly.

The details may vary slightly but this is the information I have so far. As a collective community, Loyolans have been grieving together all over the world since yesterday. We honestly cannot understand the loss. Death seems so far, like a mystery till it knocks on the door right beside you and stops you in your tracks. It could have been anybody. Whether we want to blame the hit and run driver, or the lack of good roads in Nigeria, or the car that burt into flames, the reality remains. Uche and Chuka are gone to meet our Heavenly Father and we need to direct prayers of comfort to her family.

Uche was supposed to start at Harvard this year. So it begs the question, what plans are relevant? I'd say the love you show to the people around you, those you may have to leave behind and the memories they will have to clutch tightly to. That is our legacy.

Here's a video just to show that I am NOT kidding. Uche was an amazing person. Her family, Her friends, Loyola, Nigeria and the world has lost a potential game-changer.



Rest in Peace Uche and Chuka and the other people who died in the car accident.

May the souls of the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen

22 comments:

Laurenta said...

:(
Rest in Peace Uche and Chuka

Madame Sting said...

wow...sad news. I don't even want to talk about the state of Nigerian roads and the multitude of lives that are needlessly lost on those roads everyday. It's sickening.

Gee said...

Really sad.
RIP Uche and Chuka and I pray that the Holy Spirit comforts all of you who mourn especially her family.

Ijay Sorry for your loss.

AyoDeji said...

So saddening; the poor state of road and traffic monitoring is killing. One wonders how we manage to remain most populous nation in Africa given the countless number of brilliant and irreplaceable people we have lost. I wish this hadn't happened to Uche and the brother. What a loss!

Myne Whitman said...

I think I may have met Uche once, not sure now. May her soul rest in peace, this is so sad.

Nice Anon said...

Eyaaa! May she rest in perfect peace. Amen!
I pray for comfort to you and her family and friends. Amen

Prism of an immigrant said...

This is sad.

May she RIP and may God comfort all those who knew her.

Prism of an immigrant said...

This is sad.

May she RIP and may God comfort all those who knew her.

bob-ij said...

Thank you all very much. God bless you all for your kind words and prayers. May the good Lord be with all their families.

mizchif said...

So sad.

A friend of mine just reminded me that i actually met Chuka briefly while i was in abuja a couple of months ago.

I can only imagine the pain their family must be going through. i pray for comfort for them.

Natural Nigerian said...

Very sad news. "What plans are relevant?" That is indeed an important question.

My condolences to her family and friends. It is good that the short time she had here was well spent.

Chizy K said...

wow such a shame but God knows best RIP

bob-ij said...

Mizchif: u did? I hear he was an amazing person. Friends with my brother. All we can offer are our prayers.

Natural Nigerian: amen luv. Amen


ChizyK: amen.

LG said...

OMG!
:((

Sisi Yemmie ™ said...

This is so sad

~Sirius~ said...

:(
So MANY YOUNG DEATHS this year!!!!!

Why????

RIP

Okeoghene said...

May her soul rest in peace.

Anonymous said...

She had a really bright future ahead, no one knows tomorrow that's why its very important to live each day as if it's our last, may she rest in the bosom or our lord!

bob-ij said...

Thank you all again. Your comments are much appreciated.

~x~

The Corner Shop said...

Wow! So sorry!! May God be with their family and friends

Adiya

LD said...

Don't know them, but I read the news off a friend's fb page. So tragic. May God comfort the families and all who loved and knew them.

Obiukwu Mbonu said...

I knew the siblings from the time they were kids and actually saw Uche last when she was like 6 years or so, i really cannot believe they're gone but God knows best. May their lovely and gentle souls rest in peace.