I met a blogger this weekend and NO, i will not tell you who! I screamed when she told me who she was. Too cool! So lovely meeting you. #YouKnowWhoYouAre!
I bumped into
Let's just say my circle has gotten bigger and I'm down to increase it a whole lot more.
So... besides the fun, something weird happened. Amidst the gathering of different Nigerians, the usual 'best school' argument began. Given that Loyola alumni were the majority, we were solid. My school is such a close knit family I'm very proud of it.
There were many side arguments going on and I was just lost in the moment, enjoying the experience till someone said ' At least 60 students from my school don't just die in a plane crash' and when someone derided her she said "What? It's been 10 yrs, get over it'
If your heart stopped, then you are human! Even thinking about it, I am so shocked at how insensitive the statement was. First off, it hasn't been 10 yrs it has been 5 years, 6 in a few month. Secondly, my friend who lost his sister and my baby Hadiza was there. No Loyola person heard the comment, I barely did given that I wasn`t even in the girl`s conversation. I did not even process what she said till I got into a cab to go home. And then her comment came crashing on me, along with Guilt. Guilt that I did not stand up for 60 people that I knew. For people who lost loved ones in the crash and for my baby Hadiza.
This post is not to seek sympathy; I just need advice on what I should have done. I am a very retrospective person and need to know how to react to the same situation in the future.
- Could I have not said anything because I was processing?
- Or should I blame my conflict aversion which up until now was a good thing?
- Maybe I chucked it up the girl being drunk which she may not have been?
- Maybe I didn't want to end a perfect night badly.
So I'm genuinely just asking for advice on what to do not just if someone says something of this nature but also to step out of my need to be diplomatic and begin a confrontation if it is necessary. I am not a fighter or an aggressor and till now, I thought that was a perfect state of being.
My ears are open and my mind is ready to rationalize. So... LEHGOOOOO!