Somehow the topic of marriage is on the fore front of everyone's mind. Each time I list out my plans for the future I always get asked why I didn't make plans for marriage. Maybe it's because I don't believe marriage can be likened to a career that you plot on a timeline. Granted, the biological clock is ticking but it's not a minute and hour hand on the face of the clock.
One of my colleagues at work even said "Ah! The 'bobo' will not wait o!" LOL! Who even told him there was a bobo sef??
I read on Twitter a couple of days ago that once a girl is over 25, if she's not in a serious relationship, she is damaged goods. I have just one question: Where do people get these things from?
I'm a firm believer in Preparation; In this case, I want to build a career and persona that my Husband and Children will be proud of. I know I was beyond proud of my own mum growing up and she married when she was about 27. We all turned out good. What's the hurry anyways?
I asked and someone said that, people want to be able to enjoy having their family and doing things together and GROWING with their family. Fair Enough! I honestly blame this new wave of young people marrying. Bella Naija constant wedding updates et al. Y'all are making life hard for the rest of us. Relax will you?
What do you think though?
What's the cause of the Nigerian obsession with Marriage?
I'm all about Lipstick and Nail Polish in Nigeria as a way to define my style. I stay away from Powder everyday because the heat makes it unrealistic to PAINT your face if pictures are not being taken (no vanity intended)
Here's to a safe, productive week!
Yours Truantly,
IJ
8 comments:
My mother's own method was to remind me of all my cousins who are engaged, married or having children. Then her friends kept asking when i'll be inviting them to wear aso ebi.
They will all be alright eventually.
The bobo will show up when the time comes.
mizchif::: Haha! not subtle AT ALL! loool. My friends mum asked me too. I just laughed and said "not now" Abi.
Damaged goods? Na wa o. I don't want to know what market that person is shopping at. That's how they rush and marry just for the hell of it and end up with d devil's first son.
Thankfully, I've never been under any sort of pressure. My dad has never mentioned it except when my sister got married and he said I was next, to which o replied, in d negative and mom believes in taking your time to find d right person. Although lately, she has managed to sneak it in conversation but its nothing serious.
i love the nail polish and lipstick!!!
Dame Sting:::: lol! That's hilarious. What Market? lol. I can imagine. I just wish everyone the best. Hmmm>>> that's how it starts oh. Those little comments become big. Just wait! lol. Nothing serious YET is what you should say.lol
NIkkiSho :::: Thanks darling!
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I was still talking about this today. I don't believe in rushing too however other people are sometimes responsible for 'rushing' people.
I'm so good at dishing the 'CHILL OUT' look. I think you should adopt that to, it works- wonders at that. Haha
In God's time girl in God's time. Don't let anybody put pressure on you. Take your time.
If i may ask, what exatly is the hurry? Y'all will be married for the rest of your lives (which by the the grace of God is pretty looooong)
I got hitched @ 28 (yikes! Now you know my age hehehehe)
Like you, I didn't plan towards it. when it came it came, while i was in the process of finding my feet in the real world.
As for the pressure, i didn't have any as such
Oh well Ijay it's not only in Nigeria I believe; all africa is affected by it. it's so frustrating.
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